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Amber's Answers

Flirting at work

Question:

How do I flirt at work when I'm not good at being playful? I tend to be direct and not waste words.

Answer:

If playfulness is challenging that's okay. It's good to have a reading on your personality traits, but try not to let it effect your self-esteem. People appreciate directness, especially in the work place. Too many waste time and are unproductive which is a big turn off to the opposite sex. The good news is that you can make small changes that will return big results. Self-confidence in your work w/ a smile is a great stepping-stone when interacting.

Emotionally unavailable men

Question:

Why am I always attracted to emotionally unavailable men?

Answer:

This is always a tough question to answer because the answer seems so cliché. Since I don't have your history I will have to start with the obvious and we can always build from this place. Water seeks its own level and so do people in relationships. In other words, we will attract what we can accommodate. This is why it is so important to do your own personal inventory prior to seeking love. Okay, here comes the cliché part; You father holds the key to most of this, start there and then move on to yourself before you attract the next guy!

Where did the men go?

Question:

What's the best way to find and connect with single men in their 30's? Most nightlife has a lot of young 20 year olds.

Answer:

I love this question because so many women have the same frustration. Where did all the guys go that are in my age range? As we age, you will find that this only gets harder and harder to find them! My answer to this is to be creative! A location with a fun venue is always appealing for 30's+. You want to find a place where interacting around similar interests is the main focus and not the 'pick up' vibe itself. There are cooking classes, ski trips with local gyms, dinner parties, companies that plan specific vacations for singles. An easy suggestion is to rotate with a group of girlfriends dinner parties. Each host requests that the female guests bring a male friend. This way it is always rotating, building as you go and is a fun, safe way to meet new men in your age range.

Tall, Dark, and Handsome

Question:

It is healthy to have a type?

Answer:

It is healthy to know who you are and what you seek. I always suggest to my clients to start with a wish list. It's important that you fully embrace the qualities that you truly deserve in a relationship and make a point to attract those qualities in your love life. That said, the list should not be “tall dark and handsome”, but rather, I desire a man that is loving, considerate, successful, funny, etc. You get the picture. If this is your “type”, than you're doing pretty well! However, limits on physical types will only stop possibilities!

Online Dating

Question:

What are your thoughts on dating sites?

Answer:

If I could answer this question with two words, it would be “user error”! If you really want to go take your love life online, than do it right. Fill out your profile to stand out. No fake photos or in lying about your age and weight. Focus on your personality! Be interesting, humorous, and most of all honest. I can't tell you how refreshing it is for men today to actually met the women they selected from the photo. And last but not least be careful. These men are not screened by a matchmaker, and you want to make sure you always meet in a public place and tell a friend the details of who and where.